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02 Jun

Top 10 Tips to Help Working Moms Manage Their Time Better

Moms - raising a family is an all-consuming job in itself with making lunches, carpool, managing in-school and after school activities, volunteering at school, managing your social schedule (ha! we wish), the grocery shopping, making dinner, doing the laundry and getting the dogs to the vet, its just the tip of the iceberg. Adding work into all of that seems near impossible. Or doing it all seems near impossible. Here's some tips we have for making life seem more manageable.

Number 1: "Do What You Can Do" Be realistic about the goals you can accomplish in a morning, in a day, in a week. And be forgiving of yourself. As Moms we "do what we can do."

Number 2: Make lists and split up the lists into categories or days. It makes everything you have to do seem more manageable. Then dole them out throughout the week.

Number 3: Accomplish 3 things every day. It's that simple. Pulling from your To Do lists, decide on 3 things that you HAVE to complete that day. And if you have time to finish your "3 things" for the next day then kudos to you!  That's an extra accomplishment.

Number 4: Delegate. You don't have to do everything. Find ways to pass off tasks to other people. Need to clean out your garage? Post specific tasks on Task Rabbit and have someone else help you sell off things item by item or hire a personal organizer to clean out your garage and get it ready for a garage sale. Pay both people with the money you earn from selling items in your garage.

Number 5: Accept that its ok if your laundry sits in the dryer for 3 days before you have time to fold it and put it away. Laundry can be folded while watching tv. Use the time you would have spent folding laundry to check one other item off your "3 things" list.

Number 6: Get the kids to help. Feeling like you aren't spending enough quality time with your kids? You don't have to cook dinner alone. Have them help you roll meatballs, add ingredients to a salad or set the table.

Number 7: Proximity is key. We love Samantha Ettus suggestion of the "golden triangle" - run your errands in the geographical "triangle" between home, school and work.

Number 8: Take advantage of the internet. Dry cleaners deliver. So do restaurants. And guess what - so does Vons. You can place orders for almost everything in your household online. Set up an Amazon Prime account and order everything online. For $85 a year you can save yourself a lot of time and gas money by NOT running errands. And with an Amazon Prime account you also get free access to their streaming content (movies and tv shows).

Number 9: Take turns with your husband on the weekend. Finding me time is especially hard for working parents. You should both commit to taking your kids for a playdate, team sport or birthday party on the weekend while the other spouse does something for themselves. Run one errand on the way back. Then switch!

Number 10: Sleep. If you are too tired to think straight, you will not be able to implement our time-saving tips bc you'll be too foggy to think about all the things you need to do. Plus sleep helps lower stress. (PS - did you know there are sleep studies that show that getting the right amount of sleep affects belly fat...yup, higher levels of cortisol...caused by stress, leads to belly fat.)

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11 Feb

JVS WoMentoring Program Helps Women with Work

JVS’ WoMentoring program has helped hundreds of women in crisis or transition realize their career goals and dreams through one-on-one mentoring partnerships, demonstrating the power of women helping women.

Founded twelve years ago, the program supports women seeking a new career direction while emerging from a personal or professional crisis.

Paired with a mentor who has an established career in the participant’s chosen field, each mentee works closely with her mentor and the JVS career counseling staff to reach a career milestone. Graduates have gone on to jobs in banking, government, non-profit, retail and other industries. Several have started their own businesses and have returned to become mentors themselves.WoMentoring is funded in part by Terri and Jerry Kohl, Debbie and Rick Powell, Union Bank, Wells Fargo and the WoMentoring Leadership Network.

To apply to be a Mentee, click here. To apply to be a Mentor, click here.

The WoMentoring Leadership Network (WLN) is a donor support group, committed to sustaining and enhancing JVS' WoMentoring initiative, click here to learn more. If you would like to make your WLN membership donation online, please click here.

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15 Sep

From Stay-at-Home Moms to Back-to-Work Lawyers

NYTimes.com By MICHAEL WINERIP Published: February 18, 2013 Since 2007, the Pace University School of Law in White Plains has been running a program aimed at helping lawyers who had left the field — typically stay-at-home mothers — re-enter the legal profession. Called New Directions, the course consists of 11 weeks of classroom refresher training and then an 11-week internship working as a lawyer in any of a number of settings, including law firms, government and nonprofit agencies and corporate offices. Pace offers two sessions a year, typically of 12 to 18 lawyers each. About 95 percent are women, and the average age is about 50. To date, 150 people have completed the training, with about half going on to paying jobs as lawyers. The cost is $7,000; participants may qualify for retraining grants of up to $3,000 from the United States Department of Labor. Another school offering a similar program includes the American University Washington College of Law Lawyer Re-Entry Program. That course is six days, spread over three weeks, and costs about $1,500; there are no internships. Jeannette Rossoff, 56, now in-house counsel for New York eHealth Collaborative, a nonprofit organization. Enlarge This Image Pace University Cheryl Schacht, front row far left, and members of the Pace program for parents re-entering the work force. Ms. Schacht is now a litigation lawyer for an international bank. Readers’ Comments Following are interviews with three women who completed the Pace New Directions program. CHERYL SCHACHT, 54, Pound Ridge, N.Y. Current Position Litigation counsel for an international bank. Law school Cleveland Marshall, class of 1984. Positions before leaving law In-house counsel for a real estate developer, 1984 to 1988; prosecutor, United States attorney, Madison, Wis., 1988 to 1998. Reason for leaving Stay-at-home mom for two children, now 15 and 18. How long were you at home? Fifteen years. Husband’s job? Lawyer for a nonprofit organization. Did he consider being the stay-at-home parent? No, he’s a great dad, but I don’t think that’s something in his makeup. Why did you want to return to law? I’d been taking care of everyone else, now I wanted to take care of me. Had you applied for legal jobs? I sent off all these résumés. They disappeared into a black hole. I met with a recruiter in White Plains; she didn’t give me a very favorable response. She said there are so many people just out of law school with great credentials who can’t get jobs, maybe you should try a new career. How did you feel the Pace program could help you? I was very concerned about the whole technology issue. When I last worked at the U.S. attorney’s office in the 1990s, I dictated letters and briefs that support staff typed. E-mail was just beginning. What about that 15-year gap in your résumé? I thought to myself, “I’m not confident enough to put myself out there.” They said don’t ignore that period, don’t be ashamed, you need to say you were a full-time caregiver for two children. You were a class parent, a fund-raiser, on the hiring committees for the school district, you worked at church, you’re still a vibrant person. Did the internship help? The sponsor organization knew that our skills were probably rusty and the internships allowed us an opportunity to practice working again with more training and mentoring than would be available if you were starting a real job cold turkey. People there were very interested in making sure we had a good experience. I was able to get my foot in the door of an organization, and they were able to observe me. Your internships? I spent 11 weeks at a bank that ended last June. It went well, but they didn’t have anything. Then I did a second internship, an in-house position for a tech company, but they didn’t have anything either. In September, I was talking with the people at the bank, and they offered me the job I have now. Salary? Less than my husband’s but more than when I left the U.S. attorney. JEANNETTE ROSSOFF, 56, Manhattan Current position In-house counsel, New York eHealth Collaborative, a nonprofit organization. Law school Boston University class of 1983. Position before leaving law Corporate attorney, Shearman Sterling, 1983 to 1985. Reason for leaving Stay-at-home mom for four children, now ages 21 to 28. How long were you at home? 20 years. Husband’s occupation? Investment banker. Did he consider being the stay-at-home parent? No. He was very ambitious. Relevant work experience during the 20-year gap? A small, part-time law practice out of the home. I also did fund-raising for schools and a community park. And I was the president of our co-op board for five years. I oversaw the installation of a new gym — it needed two-thirds to pass. I was always dealing with irate shareholders. Internship? New York State attorney general, charity bureau enforcement. Did they offer a position? Several higher-ups said they wanted to, but there was a job freeze. Did you consider returning to corporate law? No, I would have been competing with young people right out of law school willing to stay up all night working, and I didn’t have that kind of energy. How did you find your current job? Networking. I must have talked to 50 people about jobs. I did a small pro bono case for one, which eventually led to the in-house counsel position. It also helped that I was able to talk with the people at Pace about what kind of salary and title to ask for — those are hard things to know. Salary? Less than when I left Shearman Sterling in 1985. Hours? 9 to 5 or 6. Do you think your age hurt you? I actually think it helped. As a general counsel, a lot of what I do is giving advice. I’m not just some young bright kid, I can make judgments based on a lifetime of experiences. CYNTHIA WELLS, 53, Rye, N.Y. Current Position Staff attorney, Sidley Austin, securities law. Law school Vanderbilt, class of 1984. Position before leaving law Associate attorney, securities law, Brown and Wood, 1984 to 1989. Reason for leaving Stay-at-home mom for six children, now ages 14 to 24. Husband’s occupation? He owns a couple of businesses. Did he consider being the stay-at-home parent? No. Relevant experience while at home? Community volunteer work, my church — and six kids kept me plenty busy. Your internship? Two days a week as an in-house counsel for the Juilliard School and three days a week at the law firm, Sidley Austin. How did you get your job? Sidley Austin is the same firm I’d worked for before my children — it was renamed. I’d known the woman doing the hiring, and she was willing to give me the chance for an internship, which led to the job. Was returning hard? When I came back, the Dodd-Frank Act was just being implemented and they needed lawyers with expertise in Dodd-Frank. So the law was new and I was new, and I learned the law as it evolved. Hours? 50 or more. Salary? Low six figures. The young women who were your colleagues at the firm when you left are partners now, your bosses. Do you feel left behind? I’m definitely an ambitious person, I want to go as far as I can. But I am just so happy to be back practicing law. I do not consider myself limited. I think my own abilities will determine how far I can go. Booming: Living Through the Middle Ages offers news and commentary about baby boomers, anchored by Michael Winerip. You can connect with Michael Winerip on Facebook here. You can follow Booming via RSS here or visit nytimes.com/booming and reach us by e-mail at booming@nytimes.com This article has been revised to reflect the following correction: Correction: February 20, 2013 A previous version of this article gave an incorrect example of other school programs aimed at helping lawyers re-enter the profession. The program at University of California Hastings College of the Law in San Francisco was taken over about a year ago by Lawyers Life Coach, a for-profit job counseling service.

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04 Sep

8 Great Reasons to Keep Working After You Have Kids

Originally appeared on Forbes.com

Work and family life don’t need to conflict; they need to coexist. It is time to stop glamorizing the alternative and talk about the big bonuses of keeping up your career after you have a child.  Here are 8 great reasons to stay in the workforce after having a baby: 1. You will Enjoy a Happier Marriage Studies show that couples in which both spouses work have greater marital satisfaction. Your marriage will be more likely to thrive if you have something to focus on outside of the home and your spouse will feel less financial pressure if you bring home some of the bacon. 2. You Will Remain Financially Independent As Leslie Bennetts described in her book “The Feminine Mistake,” in more than half of traditional marriages, the male spouse will either die prematurely, lose his job or leave his wife. When this happens to a stay at home mom, there is no safety net and the entire family’s financial stability is jeopardized. Further, many women report losing financial power in their home when they leave the workforce. You never want to be pitching your spouse on a purchase. 3. You Will Raise Stronger Kids We are now aware of the deep dangers of overparenting, also known as helicopter parenting. When you stay at home, you are far more inclined to over-parent because parenting becomes your sole focus. As expert Michele Borba explains,“If we keep hovering we will rob our kids of self-reliance.” 4. You Will Secure Future Earnings A woman who leave the workforce for just three years after having kids give up 37% of her future earnings according to a study done by Sylvia Ann Hewlett. This puts your family’s financial health at risk. 5. You Will Gain Personal Fulfillment Getting personal satisfaction from something other than your children is critical to being a great parent and a happy one. As France’s most famous parenting authority Pamela Druckerman explains, “The reigning view in France is that if a child is a woman’s only goal, everyone suffers, including the child.” 6. You Will Bring Worldliness to Your Home When you stay home, your world shrinks because you are surrounded by women like you; moms of the same age, ethnicity and socioeconomic status typically cluster together. By keeping up your career, you will be a more active participant in the world and expand the perspectives you bring into your home. As former stay at home mom Lisa Heffernan explains “In the workplace my contacts and friends included both genders and people of every description, and I was better for it.” 7. You Will Serve As A Role Model There are two ways you have a greater good impact as a working mom. Firstly, the future generation of young women need working mom role models for support, inspiration and mentorship. And then of course, there is the role modeling that goes on in your own home. A Harvard educated mom who returned to life as an entrepreneur after seven years at home tells this story: When she explained to her kids that she would be starting a company, they asked how that could be since, “Daddies start businesses and mommies stay home.” She sprinted to the office and hasn’t looked back. 8. You Will be Happier A recent study showed that stay at home moms suffer from significantly greater levels of depression by age 40 than working moms. It is hard to raise a happy child if you are an unhappy mom. As the old adage goes, when mom isn’t happy, nobody is. Samantha Ettus is the leading lifestyle and parenting expert for working women. She is the founder of Working Moms Lifestyle, a bestselling author and speaker. Connect with her at @samanthaettus.

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20 Aug

Why Be a Working Mom from the Today Show

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“I have real remorse.” So confesses Lisa Endlich Heffernan, a former Wall Street trader who has struck a chord with women everywhere, after an honest assessment of how her decision to become a SAHM – a stay-at-home mom – almost 20 years ago has impacted her life and career. “At no point did I calculate the lifetime impact of diminished earnings and prospects,” Heffernan wrote in a recent column for the Huffington Post READ MORE…

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